How do I know if I’m an empathetic leader?

In order to be an empathic leader, the first thing you need to do is be vulnerable. That is one of the things that I always encourage my leaders to do. You don't want to have egos. It's not about you, it's about your teams. Your success is measured as a function of their success.  Empathic leaders also make an effort to be approachable. Interacting with people increases a lot of your health, your wellbeing, your mental state, all those various things. There's a lot of positive chemical interactions that occur when you're approachable. That helps reduce the stress level and improves empathy within the organization. In this digital age, you can drop in randomly. You have several apps to do that, dropping in on channels, on any of the meetings, and so on. The next thing is to be attentive. People who approach you and ask you for your time, it's tough for them to express the pain and suffering they're going through because they have to be vulnerable themselves, and they have to be able to open up. When someone comes and talks to you, and this is something I tell my teams, you need to respect that. You need to hold their trust, you need to keep it confidential, and at the same time, don't get distracted. Just because they're not talking about you and it's not important to you doesn't mean that you can be working on something else or texting on your phone or something. Give 100% of your attention. The next one is to be appreciative. It's something simple, but not a lot of people truly understand that. I've been in some toxic organizations where open criticism was common, especially getting berated in a hallway, which is very, very stressful. Appreciate in public, give feedback in private. No one comes into work or logs into work, saying I'm going to do a sucky job today. There's always a reason, so don't be overly critical or emotional when one of these events happens. Try to dig deep and put yourself in their shoes and figure out why that happened.  And then the last one is to be helpful. This is especially true with compassionate empathy, which means that you are going to show empathy through your actions. When you're saying that you will do something empathic and you make sure that your say-to-do ratio is as close to 1 as possible, that's how you build trust.

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In order to be an empathic leader, the first thing you need to do is be vulnerable. That is one of the things that I always encourage my leaders to do. You don't want to have egos. It's not about you, it's about your teams. Your success is measured as a function of their success.  Empathic leaders also make an effort to be approachable. Interacting with people increases a lot of your health, your wellbeing, your mental state, all those various things. There's a lot of positive chemical interactions that occur when you're approachable. That helps reduce the stress level and improves empathy within the organization. In this digital age, you can drop in randomly. You have several apps to do that, dropping in on channels, on any of the meetings, and so on. The next thing is to be attentive. People who approach you and ask you for your time, it's tough for them to express the pain and suffering they're going through because they have to be vulnerable themselves, and they have to be able to open up. When someone comes and talks to you, and this is something I tell my teams, you need to respect that. You need to hold their trust, you need to keep it confidential, and at the same time, don't get distracted. Just because they're not talking about you and it's not important to you doesn't mean that you can be working on something else or texting on your phone or something. Give 100% of your attention. The next one is to be appreciative. It's something simple, but not a lot of people truly understand that. I've been in some toxic organizations where open criticism was common, especially getting berated in a hallway, which is very, very stressful. Appreciate in public, give feedback in private. No one comes into work or logs into work, saying I'm going to do a sucky job today. There's always a reason, so don't be overly critical or emotional when one of these events happens. Try to dig deep and put yourself in their shoes and figure out why that happened.  And then the last one is to be helpful. This is especially true with compassionate empathy, which means that you are going to show empathy through your actions. When you're saying that you will do something empathic and you make sure that your say-to-do ratio is as close to 1 as possible, that's how you build trust.
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I would take an EQ ( Emotional intelligence ) test to see how much you are as an empathetic person at work & in life. Here is a test I’d found: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/tests/personality/emotional-intelligence-test
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